I had a great time at the 20th Annual Citizen Bank & Trust Luau last night in Lakeland, FL.
It was a wing haven.
Never before have I been so scared and excited of my goals and dreams – all at the same time. That’s how I know, I am dreaming big. If you have nothing to lose and it is not a must for you to make it, then your dream is not big enough.
We all want to feel powerful – that we are making the best out of what we have been given in this life. But at times, we act as if we are powerless to positively influence our own lives.
We are quick to uplift others and even quicker to talk down to ourselves. As you work on exercising your power, keep these pitfalls away and give yourself the best chance to achieve your potential.
How has the power of choice made you powerful or powerless?
In our family, we love “The Incredibles!”
The idea of a family working together to protect and solve the world’s problems is appealing to all of us.
Apart from their every day lives, they have something more to offer the world. They have special powers. The most interesting thing is that they had nothing to do with it. They were born with it and their creator decided the specificity of each of their powers.
Just like them, you were born with special powers. You are equipped to handle all the ups and downs, brokenness and completeness, success or failure, sickness and health, as well as life and death.
You did not ask for them, but God has equipped you with the powers you need to live your life. It is up to you to discover your powers and use them. Regardless of what you decide to do, you are a powerful person who can make a difference wherever you are.
The way people treat you is a directly
result of the boundaries you have set for yourself.
If you do not respect your own boundaries,
why should anybody else?
Do you have people in your lives that demands more than you can provide?
Are you risking your home life, spiritual life, and your health just to please a person who does not even care about you?
Does your husband, wife, or significant other find it empowering to always pick out your self-worth or self-esteem?
Are you yet again giving one more chance before you can address the issue?
Over the years, I have seen how people are treated differently because they demand respect and they have taken the time to set important boundaries. Simply put, people disrespect you and violate your boundaries because they can get away with it.
Perhaps, they have more leverage, resources, and they can count on you keeping your mouth shut. I grew up in homes with much domestic violence and all sorts of abuse. My stepfather frequently pick fights with my mother early on because he controlled all money and there were no consequences for his behavior. In the islands, there is no protection from the law for a woman who is being abused by her husband or significant other. In addition, the culture expected it and accepted that behavior from a man.
However, things changed when he came to the United States, where there are laws and consequences for beating your wife or anybody else. Now, my mother felt empowered knowing that help is just a phone call away…and yes, he menaced her but could never follow through.
Boundary violations do not have to be that severe. If your country does not protect you, that may be beyond what you can do. But, most of us have the power to influence how we are treated in our day-to-day life. Amazingly, he can now restrain himself.
Do people listen when you tell them that they should call you before they arrive at your doorsteps? Are you often volunteered without your permission. Are you expected to work late whenever your boss feels like it?
Do you even know what your boundaries are? Most of us don’t. By the time they feel violated or taken advantage of, it is too late…the damage is done.
So, take the time to know and understand how you want others to treat you. Create boundaries to tell others what you will or will not accept from them. Draw the line. Then hold people accountable for violating you and your boundaries.
You will be surprised how quickly to follow through. Now, they know you mean business.
To write your own paychecks and to have the freedom to control your time are signs of success. We all like the sound of that, but what we don’t like is the sound of what it takes to be your own boss.
We tend to have a twisted view of success. We see the athlete on game day and not on grueling practice days. We see the bestselling author on the New York Times bestselling list, but not on the many days and nights of preparing the manuscript. We see a lean muscle-bound physique but not the countless hours that is spent at the gym. Our twisted view of success is what is responsible for our failures before we even attempt to work on our dreams and goals.
What we know but often fail to embrace is that being your own boss requires discipline. Discipline requires us to take daily action in order to transform ourselves from average to good or from good to great. Many times, that is where so many get lost. They are not willing to do what the majority of people won’t do. That is to be committed to do something towards your goals and dreams on a daily basis regardless of how you feel. Mark Tyrrell understands the power of self-discipline. He states,
Over the years I’ve come to see self-discipline as an invisible magic. You can’t see, taste, or smell it, but it’s a effects are you huge. It can transform fat into slim, sag into buf,f uninformed into exper,t poor into rich, misery into happiness. It’s the submerged part of the iceberg others don’t see when they see your genius.
Discipline happens way before the game, the performance, the recital, the art show, and the book signing. This invisible magic is what successful people practice before they see any results.
If you want to be your own boss, if you want to be successful, it is absolutely in your reach. You must understand that you have to be intentional, nothing worthwhile will happen while you stand on the sidelines. You may not have been born with self-discipline, but you sure can develop it. You can make a choice to take daily action towards your goal on a daily basis.
Determine What Matters Most
To become self-disciplined, you must know what you want to accomplish. What is important to you? What are some of the skills you need in order to achieve your goals and dreams? Who must you know to fasttrack your learning? Once you decide what’s important, it will be clear the steps you must take to make those things happen. You must do your homework to determine and to become clear on what matters most. When that determination is completed, it will be easy for you to avoid wasting your time on unimportant things. Knowledge of what’s important to you, will help you set very clear, specific, and measurable goals that will serve as a roadmap to your success.
Deactivate Your Excuses
If self-discipline is the invisible magic that will empower you to take on your life goals and dreams, then excuses are the invisible sirens that are enticing you to give up. Opportunities to give up are everywhere. As you work on improving yourself to become your own boss, everything becomes an uphill battle, so the opportunity to get off course is plentiful. Here are some of them:
We all have used them. Click that button whereever it is in your mind and deativate them. If something is standing in the way of you taking action towards your goals and dreams, it is an excuse. Eliminate excuses altogether and you will be sure to find success.
Prioritize Doing over Feeling
Success leave clues, that’s true. The problem is not about resources on success…there are millions of success secrets out there. Still, the majority of us has problems with becoming successful? Why is that? The truth is, it is too hard. It requires discipline and we live in a world of instant gratification. We rely on our feelings or inspiration to take action. What we need to understand is that our feelings tend to be unreliable and often betray us. If we want to be successful, if we want to be our own boss, we must act regardless of our feelings. Here are a few questions to help you start taking steps toward your goals.