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I’m a Little Scared Right Now

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Success is risky, but the rewards are huge.

Never before have I been so scared and excited of my goals and dreams – all at the same time. That’s how I know, I am dreaming big. If you have nothing to lose and it is not a must for you to make it, then your dream is not big enough.

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3 Pitfalls to Exercising Your Power

We all want to feel powerful – that we are making the best out of what we have been given in this life. But at times, we act as if we are powerless to positively influence our own lives.

We are quick to uplift others and even quicker to talk down to ourselves. As you work on exercising your power, keep these pitfalls away and give yourself the best chance to achieve your potential.

  1. Muddy Values – It is said that if you don’t know what you stand for, your will fall for anything. Know what’s important to you and what you stand for. Who you are must not depend on what people think of you.
  2. Blame – blaming others for your situation or your lack of success is a trap. Change starts with you. Take full responsibility to change your own life.
  3. Lack of Forgiveness – Do you harbor guilt, grudges, or malice? If you do, you are digging a grave for yourself. Forgiveness is a daily practice and it helps you to be free and start life anew.
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You Are Equipped with Powers

In our family, we love “The Incredibles!”

The idea of a family working together to protect and solve the world’s problems is appealing to all of us.

Apart from their every day lives, they have something more to offer the world. They have special powers. The most interesting thing is that they had nothing to do with it. They were born with it and their creator decided the specificity of each of their powers.

Just like them, you were born with special powers. You are equipped to handle all the ups and downs, brokenness and completeness, success or failure, sickness and health, as well as life and death.

You did not ask for them, but God has equipped you with the powers you need to live your life. It is up to you to discover your powers and use them. Regardless of what you decide to do, you are a powerful person who can make a difference wherever you are.

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Draw the Line

The way people treat you is a directly

result of the boundaries you have set for yourself.

If you do not respect your own boundaries,

why should anybody else?

Do you have people in your lives that demands more than you can provide?

Are you risking your home life, spiritual life, and your health just to please a person who does not even care about you?

Does your husband, wife, or significant other find it empowering to always pick out your self-worth or self-esteem?

Are you yet again giving one more chance before you can address the issue?

Over the years, I have seen how people are treated differently because they demand respect and they have taken the time to set important boundaries. Simply put, people disrespect you and violate your boundaries because they can get away with it.

Perhaps, they have more leverage, resources, and they can count on you keeping your mouth shut. I grew up in homes with much domestic violence and all sorts of abuse. My stepfather frequently pick fights with my mother early on because he controlled all money and there were no consequences for his behavior. In the islands, there is no protection from the law for a woman who is being abused by her husband or significant other. In addition, the culture expected it and accepted that behavior from a man.

However, things changed when he came to the United States, where there are laws and consequences for beating your wife or anybody else. Now, my mother felt empowered knowing that help is just a phone call away…and yes, he menaced her but could never follow through.

Boundary violations do not have to be that severe. If your country does not protect you, that may be beyond what you can do. But, most of us have the power to influence how we are treated in our day-to-day life. Amazingly, he can now restrain himself.

Do people listen when you tell them that they should call you before they arrive at your doorsteps? Are you often volunteered without your permission. Are you expected to work late whenever your boss feels like it?

Do you even know what your boundaries are? Most of us don’t. By the time they feel violated or taken advantage of, it is too late…the damage is done.

So, take the time to know and understand how you want others to treat you. Create boundaries to tell others what you will or will not accept from them. Draw the line. Then hold people accountable for violating you and your boundaries.

You will be surprised how quickly to follow through. Now, they know you mean business.

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You Are the Boss

To write your own paychecks and to have the freedom to control your time are signs of success. We all like the sound of that, but what we don’t like is the sound of what it takes to be your own boss.

We tend to have a twisted view of success. We see the athlete on game day and not on grueling practice days. We see the bestselling author on the New York Times bestselling list, but not on the many days and nights of preparing the manuscript. We see a lean muscle-bound physique but not the countless hours that is spent at the gym. Our twisted view of success is what is responsible for our failures before we even attempt to work on our dreams and goals.

What we know but often fail to embrace is that being your own boss requires discipline. Discipline requires us to take daily action in order to transform ourselves from average to good or from good to great. Many times, that is where so many get lost. They are not willing to do what the majority of people won’t do. That is to be committed to do something towards your goals and dreams on a daily basis regardless of how you feel. Mark Tyrrell understands the power of self-discipline. He states,

Over the years I’ve come to see self-discipline as an invisible magic. You can’t see, taste, or smell it, but it’s a effects are you huge. It can transform fat into slim, sag into buf,f uninformed into exper,t poor into rich, misery into happiness. It’s the submerged part of the iceberg others don’t see when they see your genius.

Discipline happens way before the game, the performance, the recital, the art show, and the book signing. This invisible magic is what successful people practice before they see any results.

Good News

If you want to be your own boss, if you want to be successful, it is absolutely in your reach. You must understand that you have to be intentional, nothing worthwhile will happen while you stand on the sidelines. You may not have been born with self-discipline, but you sure can develop it. You can make a choice to take daily action towards your goal on a daily basis.

Determine What Matters Most

To become self-disciplined, you must know what you want to accomplish. What is important to you? What are some of the skills you need in order to achieve your goals and dreams? Who must you know to fasttrack your learning? Once you decide what’s important, it will be clear the steps you must take to make those things happen. You must do your homework to determine and to become clear on what matters most. When that determination is completed, it will be easy for you to avoid wasting your time on unimportant things. Knowledge of what’s important to you, will help you set very clear, specific, and measurable goals that will serve as a roadmap to your success.

Deactivate Your Excuses

If self-discipline is the invisible magic that will empower you to take on your life goals and dreams, then excuses are the invisible sirens that are enticing you to give up. Opportunities to give up are everywhere. As you work on improving yourself to become your own boss, everything becomes an uphill battle, so the opportunity to get off course is plentiful. Here are some of them:

  • I don’t have enough time.
  • I will start later.
  • I cannot do it by myself.
  • I am afraid.
  • It’s too hard.
  • I am not knowledgeable.

We all have used them. Click that button whereever it is in your mind and deativate them. If something is standing in the way of you taking action towards your goals and dreams, it is an excuse. Eliminate excuses altogether and you will be sure to find success.

Prioritize Doing over Feeling

Success leave clues, that’s true. The problem is not about resources on success…there are millions of success secrets out there. Still, the majority of us has problems with becoming successful? Why is that? The truth is, it is too hard. It requires discipline and we live in a world of instant gratification. We rely on our feelings or inspiration to take action. What we need to understand is that our feelings tend to be unreliable and often betray us. If we want to be successful, if we want to be our own boss, we must act regardless of our feelings. Here are a few questions to help you start taking steps toward your goals.

  • What are the consequences of inaction?
  • What can I get done today?
  • Who can hold me accountable?
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I Am Everything Because of Love

It was just an ordinary afternoon, a time when bank employees continue to service their customers with their account-related issues. That afternoon, tragedy struck at a SunTrust Bank where at least five died: four employees and one customer. As of now, law enforcement does know the reason behind this atrocity.

When my husband texted to tell me about the bank shooting, I was beside myself. “Are you okay? Is everybody okay? Can I call you?”

I did not wait for an answer, I called him right away to learn that it was not his bank, but one that was about forty-five minutes away from him, in Sebring, Florida. I am relieved and thankful that the shooting did not take place at his branch, but my heart continues to hurt for his colleagues and their families.

This is yet another shooting eating away our sense of safety. These shootings are hitting closer and closer to home. Last year, one shooting took place at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida where my stepdaughter’s senior year was devastated with the loss of seventeen lives. The SunTrust shooter is just twenty-one years old and the Marjory Stoneman Douglas shooter was nineteen years old at the time of the shooting.

What drove these young people to commit such crimes? Does a lack of love have anything to do with it?

I am everything because of love. The love of God, the love of my husband, the love of my children, and the love of my extended family make life worth living. The thought of losing them in any tragedy troubles my heart.

But, by now I know that there is absolutely nothing I can do to protect them from such tragedy. How can you protect people who are doing what they are supposed to do? Shouldn’t they be safe at work? Should they be safe at school? Shouldn’t they be safe at church?

What I know for sure is that only God can protect them. I surrender them to him. I also know that loving them with all my heart and with with both my hands is the only way I can reinvest in them. Love covers all. Love cures everything.

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The Urgency of Now

We are faced with many choices every day. The choices that matter most are the ones that help to make the world a better place and the ones that help to elevate our brothers and sisters.

Do not be fooled. Our lives and our needs are intricately connected that what we do on a personal level has the capacity to impact our entire world.

Now is the time to take action and to speak against all that is unjust and destroying our world. Let’s be encouraged by the work of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who sacrificed his life for injustice, so we can live in more just world.

I am reminded of a quote I heard from watching the Green Book, a movie set in the 1960s about a genius African-American classical pianist who decides to leave the comfort of the North to go tour the segregated deep south.

GENIUS IS NOT ENOUGH,

IT TAKES COURAGE TO

CHANGE PEOPLE’S MINDS.

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Dr. Don Shirley, the main actor, was good enough to entertain White folks but could not have a meal with them, use the same hotel, or bathroom with them. It took courage for him to willingly put himself in dangerous situations in an effort to change how others perceive people of color.

How will you show courage today to ensure that your voice is heard? How are you stepping out of your comfort zone to combat injustice?

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3 Ways to Help Teachers Flourish in the Classroom

Year after year, we see teachers striking around the country – West Virginia, Oklahoma, Arizona, Kentucky, and now Los Angeles, where tens of thousands walked out of the classroom to protest their large class sizes, low salaries, and lack of supporting staff. Right here in Florida, there continues to be a teacher shortage impacting the quality and effectiveness of education students are receiving in the classroom.

No one challenges the point that teachers should get paid more, but no one is willing to act to make it so, no one is willing to put the “money where the mouth is– not the national, state, and local representatives. Yet, we want all students to succeed, not one to be left behind. How can this be, when teachers themselves are constantly left behind with limited power to influence their own professional growth and economic security? What quality of education do you think students will get when teachers cannot pay the bills at home? When they have to work second jobs?

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So, teachers leave the field and too many classrooms have to settle for what they can get, a body in the classroom with hardly any experience on the subject, classroom management, lesson planning, and how students learn. On the national level, schools have lost over 100,000 teachers and supporting personnel while the number of students increased by over one million. Despite the lack of adequate compensation for what they do, teachers leave the classroom for other compounding reasons such as lack of personal growth opportunities, collaboration with other teachers, and the stressful classroom environment.

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For teachers to flourish in the classroom, these things have to be addressed:

  1. Treat them with dignity and show them respect – I do not know when the teaching profession gained the negative perception that it now has. Perhaps, it has to do with all the teacher strikes over the years or the recent public classroom videos on teacher and student conflicts. It might also be the myriad of school shootings that took the lives of many students, teachers, and staff. Why do people automatically feel sorry for and pity a person who is a teacher? “Bless your heart,” “You poor soul,” or “I would not want to be in your shoes.” These are some of the most common ways people respond to a teacher. To help teachers flourish in the classroom and in the teaching profession, they must be treated with dignity and respect. Their work is a worthy one and it should be treated as such.
  2. Give them opportunities to grow professionally – teacher growth and the education system seems to be a great paradox. The science, English, math, social study, music, art, business teacher should study at the highest level. Teachers should be experts in their fields and when they are compensated for their expertise, that would revolutionize the education system. The education system must encourage teachers to be experts in their respective fields to increase the quality of education that students are receiving. What we see in the classroom oftentimes, are teachers who do not study the subject they teach and may take years on their own, if they are motivated to be an effective teacher. To flourish, teachers must have opportunities not only to participate in formal education but also non-formal education such as teacher collaborations, workshops and subject-specific conferences.
  3. Provide them a positive work environment – a negative, stressful, and conflicting work environment are at the core of why teachers leave the classroom. Yes, teachers deserve to get paid as well any doctor, but the reason they leave the classroom is not usually about salary. They leave because students are disrespectful and the classroom is often a war zone that even the school administration does not have an answer for. They leave because they teach too many classes and must take work home daily if assignments are to be graded. They leave because teaching is a stressful job that affects one’s overall health and what happens at home after work. For teachers to flourish, schools must provide a positive environment that supports the work they are doing in the classroom

Paying teachers what they deserve would be a great start not only to keep the ones already in the classroom, but also to attract potentially great ones. There must also be opportunities for them to become better every day at what they do, alongside a positive work environment that supports them to help students succeed not only in the classroom, but also in their life experiences.

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Power Your Potential

My husband loves watches.

Over the years, we have brought quite a few of them. Most of the watches we have in our collection require batteries in order for the watches to function properly. When the batteries expire, my husband would change them himself.

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But life got in the way and frustration set in, so the wide ranges of watches – Seiko, Invicta, Movado, and others were left for a long time, perhaps between three to five years in the jewelry box waiting for the day to once again tap into their potentials.

Potential, that’s a loaded word. It speaks of the wonders that are possible in our lives and the optimistic hope that we can be more than the eye can see. Potential promises possibilities for peak performance. It implies that success and greatness are for the taking only if you would tap into what is already in your possession.

So for my husband’s birthday, I decided to make one simple decision to help the watches once again tap into their potential and to do what they do best–tell the time. I took a total of ten of them to a repair shop and for just $75 and less than 24 hours, the watches were once again doing what they were designed to do.

We are very similar to these watches. Life can often get in the way of us fulfilling our potential, what we were designed to do. Know this, despite the fact that you have put your potential on hold does not mean that it is no longer working or functionable. Your potential is there waiting for you to power it up in order for you to succeed and develop that greatness that has been dormant inside of you for so long.

How can you power your potential now to radically change your life from moment-to-moment?

Share the small steps you are taking.