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Fear Is a Bully

Do not allow fear to deter you from taking daily action towards becoming all that God intended you to be. Fear is a bully that stands ready to rob you of your inheritance. I challenge you to face that bully today and put it in the right place –behind you.

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The Confidence to be UNSTOPPABLE

I can do ALL things through Christ which strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).

Why are many of us so lackluster, insipid, or perhaps dead in the pursuit of life as God would have us live it?

I think the answer to this question for the most part is a lack of confidence in the promises that God has given to us, our inability to receive them, and the fear that we may not be get it right.

It is not enough to know the promises; we must accept them, study them, internalize them, and put them into practice.

We know that fear is not from God, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7).

Therefore, confidence is having a divine perspective to do what God has equipped you to do knowing that He has your back every step of the way.

We see this confidence when…

Hezekiah trusted in, leaned on, and was confident in the Lord… (2 Kings 18:5).

Peter answered, Lord, if it is You, command me to come to You on the water (Mathew 14:28).

Esther entered Xerxes inner court uninvited (Esther 4:14). Not only did God preserve Esther’s life, but He also eliminated the threat of extinction for the Jewish people.

God has our backs no matter what. It is up to us to do what He has equipped us to do. We can do it all because he is right by our side giving us all we need to take every single step.

How will you be UNSTOPPABLE today?

Dr. G

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Shine Your Light on Fear

Fear is the mind-killer, fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. When fear overcomes us our rational senses are diminished, we become primal and feel the world has turned against us. Seen through the prism of fear life holds no joy, everywhere we turn threats seem to be in abundance.

Fear paralyses us, fear tells us how to feel. It takes anything good and turns it around into something warped. Of course fear is how Satan wants us to experience the world. We seek refuge from fear in base pleasures and easy vices. A fearful human lives in the darkness, unable to see the beauty and joy that exists in the world.

Fear appeals to our primal nature. The most ancient part of our brains is located in the center of our cortex. The amygdalae are almond shaped bundles of nuclei located deep within the temporal lobe of the brain. Their purpose is to alert us to danger and allow us to react with speed to avoid threats. As ancient components of the brain they can over ride our higher functions.

Is it any wonder that television and the popular media promote content high in levels of sex and violence? These images appeal to the amygdala and grab our attention. Satan knows that without guidance he can manipulate humans and keep them trapped in a circle of  non-virtuous behavior through a cycle of fear.

To overcome fear is to see the light in the world. It is like opening the curtains and casting light across a darkened room. The shadows disappear and we can see the world as it truly is. God is that light. Letting Jesus into the room will dissolve the murky bleakness and remove the shadows where fear can grow.

Illuminating your life with the light of the Lord can transform you into a beacon. Evil and fear no longer have a place to hide. Those around you will draw strength from your refusal to cower in the darkness. With your newfound security you can see the path the Lord intended you to take and illuminate it for others to follow.

To light up your life and follow the path is simple. Tools have been provided for you. Let scripture be your guide and by living by the Word of God let the light grow within you. Do it today and see how the light can enter your life.

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Are You Mentally Strong?

Executives, entrepreneurs, and leaders from all businesses have been primarily concerned with physical health, but now they are learning that mental strength and health is even more important. As leaders we always encourage our people not to give up, to be optimistic, to tenaciously persevere until the desired result is reached. We can also identify mentally strong people by what they refuse to do. Following is a list of put together by a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist Amy Morin. I am sharing her list with you along with my thoughts on how you can apply them to your everyday reality.

  1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. Life is not fair. Bad things happen to good people. Mentally strong people have this keen sense of awareness concerning this very subject. Therefore, they do not spend their precious time throwing pity parties because their circumstances are not what it ought to be. Mentally strong people take responsibility for all that happens in their life without playing the blaming game. Most importantly, they don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves for they have dissected that experience, learned from it, and decided that they are stronger having been through it. Now, they have resources to help them when the next unpleasant situation comes their way.
  2. Give Away Their Power. Have you ever been told that you cannot do something when you know full well that you are more than capable? Did you give in or did you stand up for yourself? Mentally strong people are very aware of their power. They know that they are in the driver’s seat when it comes to others’ intent on making them feel inferior. They know that how they respond to certain situations is the key to keeping their power rather than giving it away to those who have less than good in mind.
  3. Shy Away from Change. So many work hard at escaping change and feel at home in their comfort zones. Not the mentally strong. They welcome change and all that comes with it. They thrive on change knowing that if they do not change then they are not growing. Change becomes a mental work out for the mentally strong providing opportunities for creative and challenging work and play.
  4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Have you ever been caught in a traffic jam? Have you ever had a flight cancelled? These things are out of our hands—they are out of our control. As a result, mentally strong people do not spend any of their valuable time throwing a fit about them. They acknowledge that the only thing that they can do is control how they respond to such situations.
  5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Many people struggle in this area. The people pleasers go out of their way to please others while being unpleasant to themselves. Mentally strong people behave differently. They treat people with respect, kindness, and fairness. They do not please others at their expense and they are not afraid to speak up. They understand how to navigate through difficult situations gracefully.
  6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. What is life without risk? Risk makes everything interesting. The risk that is researched, studied, well-thought out are calculated risks. Mentally strong people welcome those risks, they know what they stand to benefit, and are ready to handle the worst-case scenario.
  7. Dwell on the Past. The best is yet to come. It does not matter if you had the best life. It does not matter if you had the worst life. What counts is today. Mentally strong people learn from the past and avoid getting stuck there. Instead of dwelling on the past, they spend their time and energy in creating the future that they desire.
  8. Makes the Same Mistakes Over and Over. If you do what you’ve always done, you will get what you’ve always gotten. We can’t expect to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect to get a different result. That is insanity. Mentally strong people do not get caught up in these dire situations. They take responsibility for the past and learn as much as they can from it. Successful executives, entrepreneurs, and leaders reflect on their pasts to learn, grow, and become more productive.
  9. Resent Other People’s Success. Who makes up your circle of influence? People who are more successful than you or those that are less successful than you are? Mentally strong people admire those who are more successful than they are. They have no place for jealousy and resentment. However, they are ready to learn from their more successful peers lessons that will help them create their own success.
  10. Give Up After Failure. Failure is the gateway to success. We have to be willing to fail time and time again as long as these failures bridge that gap between where we are and where we want to be. Mentally strong people recognize the value in failing that is why they repeat it more often than not. They recognize that if they are failing that means they are proactively working to accomplish their goals.
  11. Fear Time Alone. Some people fear the thought of spending time alone. However, the mentally strong cherish such a time. It is a time to reflect on things that they have done right as well as thing they can improve on. It is a time to review their plans and make adjustments. It is a time to be creative and productive. The key is they are responsible for their own happiness. They welcome the company of others but they do not demand it.
  12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Executives, entrepreneurs, and employees everywhere have learned especially in this economy that the world does not owe them anything. They are certainly grateful to have a paycheck. Therefore, they know that they have to be thoroughly prepared to succeed in such a competitive market.
  13. Expect Immediate Results. Are you in it for the long haul? No matter what the goal is whether or not it is starting a new business, writing a book, or starting an exercise program, mentally strong people are in it until they have achieve the desired result. They understand that anything worthwhile takes time. Change is not easy; therefore, they practice their “staying power” to get the results that they expect.
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Transforming Fear into Faith: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of Fear

For some people fear is a dirty four-letter word. It is seen as a negative word that is able to render us to paralysis. Fear seems to have let us down and limit us in so many ways. It limits us when we neglect opportunities for growth and development. Fear limits us when we fail to change knowing that doing the same thing over and over again will result in the same outcome. It limits us when we fail to make hard decisions, take smart risks, and remain in our comfort zone.

Yet, fear is a natural and useful part of life. Fear signals danger, vulnerabilities, and it informs us when and where we should be careful. It is important to know that fear is a companion that we will face whenever we decide to do something new and stick our neck out there.  Some of us allow fear to hinder us from achieving our goals and dreams. However, when we face fear head on, we give ourselves a chance to amass experiences and successes that can strengthen and uphold us when we are rejected, when we make mistakes, and when face difficulties.

Take Back Your Power

When we let fear stop us from starting a new project or taking a stand on a particular subject, we are entertaining the idea that we are not good enough. Our behavior indicates that what we have to offer is irrelevant and is of no value. We decide that if we reject ourselves first, we will not have to endure growing pains. We compare ourselves to those who have made it and place them on pedestals as a way to justify our claim that we are inferior and that we will never measure up.

Often times, we fail to recognize that we are responsible for our powerlessness. We have given our power to our inner critic and accepted negative thoughts as truth. We can break this cycle right now if we choose to feel the fear and go for our goals anyway. Let’s stop running away from fear. We must understand that fear is part of the process and we should not let it stop us from doing what we know we must do in our daily life. Acknowledge that fear exist and keep moving forward. That will enable us to create a bank of successes we can refer to when the next challenge comes around.

Start Now…You Are Good Enough

When fear settles in, the cycle of rejection continues to plaque us by trying to convince us that we are simply not good enough. We tell ourselves that we are not talented enough, we are not pretty enough, or we do not know enough. As a result, we remain stuck and unable to accomplish anything of significance. To blossom and thrive in spite of fear, we have to allow ourselves to do what is in our power to do. We must not make decisions for the world; we must make decisions for ourselves. For example, as a writer my business is to write to the best of my ability and to make my work available to readers. Then it is up to the readers to decide whether or not my work provides useful nuggets to help them improve their lives. So, don’t wait until everything is perfect; it will never be. Let’s do our part, start with what we know, and let the world decide if what we have to offer is good enough.

Keep a Victory Log

To blossom and thrive in spite of fear, we must count our successes even when our inner critic tells us that they are not good or big enough. Keeping a victory log comes in handy as a resource to kick back fear when we need courage to keep moving forward or when starting a new venture. To set the victory log into motion, it is important that we determine exactly what it is that we are afraid to do. So, make a list of things such as asking for a raise, starting a business, or leaving the kids with a babysitter. Then look at the list carefully and set a plan in motion to tackle each item on your list. If we are not doing what we are afraid to do; we will never know our fullest potential. As a result, we deny ourselves the biggest opportunity to grow and to live an effective life.

Therefore, if we are afraid of speaking; let us start speaking now. Then write down any and all progress—big or small. After a short time, it becomes clear that our fear is unfounded and that we create them by imagining a negative outcome rather than a positive one. The best way to get better at doing something is to practice. Celebrate the slightest of improvements and write it down in the victory log. That will allow us to create positive images and memories to carry us to our next endeavor.

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Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in you. Psalm 56:3

Do you sometimes feel afraid? No matter what your reasons may be, you become afraid because you don’t feel that God is close enough. This is so far from the truth. God is always around to nurture, to support, and to comfort you–even when you cannot see, hear, or feel Him. Your feelings are not always reliable. That is precisely why faith is so important. David provides a good example, you need to make it a habit to trust in God when fear seems to be winning. He will give you the strength to punch fear in the face and move on to things that truly matter.